"Oh it's probably just timing, are y'all having sex the 14th day of your cycle?"
"Y'all are still so young, you have time."
"Maybe y'all just aren't ready for a baby yet." (That one hurt coming from a "best friend")
I couldn't handle it anymore.
So I lied.
I told them after I got my most recent test results that we decided to take a break from the doctor and that we had some things we wanted to do before we have a baby anyway. I felt horrible for lying and sad to not have them to talk about it with but if rather have no one than people who don't understand. And I don't blame them or hate them. They said things they thought would help and if I weren't going through this I probably wouldn't know what to say either.
So for now, I'm enjoying my pity party all by myself.
Im sorry you are having a hard time. I understand the need for a pity party at times. My best friend is (or used to be bff) was one of those fertile mertiles and always got pregnant on birth control. All 4 of her pregnancies were hard medically but I was always there for her and she abandoned me a few months back when her family moved. We were friends since high school. Another long time friend told me that my husband and I werent in the right place in our lives right now and thats why we cant get pregnant. I said it takes 9 months to "grow" a baby so we have time to get life together (long story) but I knew she wouldnt be there for me. So I started blogging and checked out a few web sites and reading other blogs helps too. Big hugs and party girl!
ReplyDeleteSometimes "friends" aren't all they're cracked up to be. Two of my best friends got pregnant within a month of each other last year (one with her 2nd, one with her 3rd) and it seems like ever since then the looks of pity just keep getting worse. Or the "Well at least you can ______ because you don't have any kids.". Just having somewhere to get it all off my chest and to read about women going though the same feelings has already helped so much. I never imagined anyone actually taking the time to ready my blog and definitely never thought anyone would follow me. I am so thankful that my first follower is you! Big hugs right back at ya!!!
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